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2	Service Issue: Parents & Gay Children Bridging the Generation/Prejudice Gap Khristian E. Kay
3	all of my friends are either dead or in prison Tom Waits HIV is alive and Well Affecting Women, Children, Minorities Aids facts how many people are affected Why are so many still dying? Information Research Knowledge Awareness Ignorance
4	AIDS Facts By the end of 2003, an estimated 42 million around the world were living with HIV/AIDS. During the year, 5 million people became infected and an estimated 3 million people died. The 5 million new infections in 2003 include an estimated 600,000 to 700,000 children, over 90% of who were infected through mother-to-child transmission (MTCT). About one-third of people living with HIV/AIDS are 15-24 years of age.
5	More AIDS Facts In the 45 most affected countries, an estimated 68 million people will die prematurely because of AIDS during the two decades between 2000 and 2020. To date, the AIDS pandemic has left behind more than 14 million orphans, more than 92 percent of who live in Africa. More than 7 million people in Asia and the Pacific are living with HIV/AIDS.
6	More AIDS Facts More than 70 percent of those infected live in sub-Saharan Africa. Sub-Saharan Africa, the worst affected region, is now home to 29.4 million people living with HIV/AIDS. In 2002, 3.5 million were infected, and an estimated 2.4 million Africans died. According to the latest estimates by UNAIDS, more than US$10 billion will be needed in 2005 to pay the cost of effective prevention, treatment, care and support programs in low- and middle-income countries.
7	Why is this an issue of service? My role as a K-12 school teacher Special Education is not just for Special Education Forging relationships between parents and children Awareness Acceptance & Denial Education My role as a father Awareness? Is this enough? Acceptance? Altruistic or Honest? Rejection? Values of Morality
8	If not you? Whom? Service? Who Am I to say what is right or wrong? Do I have an obligation as a teacher? What are my responsibilities as a parent? What is my responsibility as a human being? Why is it my responsibility? What can I do? Why should I?
9	Personal Stories Responsibilities: Act Up! Queer Nation Gay & Lesbian Alliance Khris (Ian) Kay My son the activist
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11	Needs & Retrospectives Questions posed on LGBT forums Waukesha Youth Group K-12 Students at my school Interviews with College aged students What had they wanted as an adolescent? What would they wished had happened? What could have made their lives easier then/now? What did they want their parents to do?
12	Wishful Thinking Acceptance Not to be judged No fault Nothing wrong “I am your child” To be loved unconditionally
13	What perspectives are considered? Parents seeking Children’s Approval Parents’ Questioning Their: Faith Values Morals Belief Systems Integrity Own Sexuality
14	What perspectives are considered? Children seeking Parents’ Approval Children Questioning Their: Faith Values Morals Belief Systems Integrity Identity
15	What perspectives are considered? Fuzzy logic or Quantum Physics: “The Researcher Influences the Outcome” What I had discovered through the Youth Groups Acceptance of me Honored by my openness Belief that I would be a role model for other parents Those Radical Noble Gasses: (the view from my son)
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21	More on Perspectives… The parent child equation: Children still had difficulty with their accepting parents “Parents are lying” When the “in your face” attitude is no longer effective Parents still left out in the cold What went wrong?
22	Time to retool Re: The parent child equation: Perhaps it is the parents role to “condemn” the child? Children need to rebel regardless? Are our roles defined in society that regardless of our actions we need to “fit” these roles? Should parents be role models for sexuality? Morality?
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